I am sure you can prepare yourself for your performance review.  Most are done annually, although some are done more frequently.  Your future might be determined not only by the review, but how you handle it.

Too often, I have seen people get defensive, and even begin to argue point by point.  This might make you feel better at the moment, but I am not sure it leaves a lasting impression.

Some of this depends on the size and formality of your company.  Bigger companies have a process in place, typically, with all kinds of mechanisms for what to do prior, during and after the review.  Smaller companies typically do not.  Small companies review you more frequently, less formally, and you can be almost blindsided by negative comments.

Today, we are in an atmosphere of feedback.  We all want feedback…or we say we do.  But what we really want is positive feedback.  We want to be told we are doing a good job and are a positive contributor.

Some small business owners give positive oriented reviews…but, I dare say, some give realistic and even harsh feedback.  These business owners do not have time to massage feelings so that yours are not hurt.  They want you to get better.

I think the key is to understand that the boss will have your best interests in mind.  But he or she will also understand more than you, the goals of the company and your role in it…and, more to the point, his expectations of you.  You want to know and understand these changing expectations.

You should want all kinds of feedback.  Only by understanding how your performance is impacting your organization can you hope to do better.  So, the next time you hear a review that hurts you, realize that it is most likely done only to help you get better. 

You can pout, even quit if your feelings are hurt.  Or, you can get better.